The idea of an It's Just Lunch "date" is a bit of a misnomer. While we always hope for our clients to experience a romantic spark when they first meet, in our experience we have found that establishing chemistry sometimes doesn't happen until a second or third date.
For that reason, I like to think of the meetings we coordinate as "introductions"--call them "Date Zero". The purpose of Date Zero is not to determine whether the person you're meeting is someone you'd like to sleep with or someday marry. It's to determine whether they are someone you ever want to see or speak to again! It's not unlike being introduced to someone through a mutual friend: if you attend a barbecue at your neighbor's house, and your neighbor says, "Hey Mary, this is Steve. I really wanted you two to meet because he's crazy about skiing just like you, and goes to Europe pretty often-didn't say you backpacked through there for a year?" If Mary and Steve chat for a few minutes and both feel interested enough to exchange phone numbers to meet on their own, great! If not, they can politely part ways and see what other eligible singles are hanging out by the grill.
While the hope might be for a romantic development, the goal is simply to bring together two like-minded people that might enjoy each other's company. The next time you head out for your It's Just Lunch date, think of it as Date Zero--you've lost nothing in meeting someone new that you might really like, and you have everything to gain if you both want to get to Date One!
Krista White
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