True Chemistry Outside of Your Parameters

Last week we had three It’s JustLunch dates scheduled for the same location around the same time.  One of my clients had arrived about 45 minutes early because the metro decided to finally be on time!  As he was sitting in the lobby, a woman asking if he was her IJL date approached him.  It turns out that they were not each other’s matches, and both were a little disappointed because each felt some instant chemistry. 

To make a long story short, he called the next day asking if I could do some research and find out if he could indeed meet this woman.  I called her and she was delighted that he asked about her, and they are going out next week!  She in turn asked me why they have never been introduced before, and I explained that he is one year outside the age parameters she had been pretty strict about sticking to.  Needless to say, she is now open to meeting people outside her parameters!

IJL Client Dating in DC With Confidence

Some It's Just Lunch Metro DC client feedback I just had to share :)

"We may not go out on anymore dates, but Anna and I are great friends and talk all the time! Thanks." -MG (MG personally asked me to share this with everyone because he said its something people never think about as another perk of IJL dating!)

"With each new date I find out something new about myself. The process is working and we are getting closer and closer, can't wait for the next one." –MS

"I can't go out with Phil because we dated for 6 months a while back. We had a great time while it lasted. So it seems you called with another great match!" -VL

"My confidence has skyrocketed thanks to IJL!" -PA, DP, and many others

Happy Dating!

Tips to Make it a Great First Date DC

1. Go the Extra Mile and Look Great: When you look great, you feel great, and it shows.
2. Don’t Be in a Rush: Give yourself a little extra time to get there to eliminate the stress from traffic and the metro.  Relax and have a great time.
3. Be Yourself: Don’t try to over impress. 
4. Be Open Minded: Everyone is nervous on a first date. Give everyone a chance to open up and don’t write someone off right away
5. Have Fun: It is always great to meet someone new.  Didn’t feel that romantic connection?  No worries… you could have gained a work contact, made a new friend, found someone perfect for your best friend, found someone from your hometown or college you’d never met before, or simply had a great meal and a chat with someone new!

A DC Daters Story; Meant To Be

We love it when matches just click.  It’s as though the stars align over our office, amazing. I want to tell you a cute story about our daters at It’s Just Lunch DC.

Sometimes my clients will get specific and ask for someone who works in a certain field, plays a certain sport, shares a particular hobby, etc.  Well it turns out that Joey was asking if we had any lovely ladies who are in the medical field, like a nurse or doctor, and the next day, Rachel joins. Not only is Rachel a nurse, but she was also asking if we had any tall, dark, and handsome men in the engineering field…what do you know? That’s Joey! Needless to say, he will be Rachel's first match…

Got time for a Date DC?

Because we are a service from busy professionals you may find it challenging to schedule a time to even go on a date!  Remember that's why we at It's Just Lunch Metro DC are here for you. Here are some great tips to ensure you get those dates on your callendar.

Timecards

1. Are you free every tuesday night at 7? Let me now and I can always schedule your date then!

2. Be sure to specify whether you are free for brunch, lunch or drinks when you provide a date of availability.

3.  Take an extra second and listen to my messages... I'll leave details about your match and their availability so we have somewhere to start.

4. Check your calendar first to ensure you're free to minimize reschedules.

5. If you're one of the lucky ones who's really organized and you can provide your availability for the whole month... Give me a call and let me know.

Have DC Dating Rules Changed?

I got a call from Emily yesterday and we’re stuck in a bit of a dilemma. She had a great first date with Dillon and asked him if he’d like to come to a football game with her since she had an extra ticket. 

They went out, had a good time, but she was turned off by the fact that he didn’t pay for her food.

What do you think? Should Cadence have expected to pay since she asked? Or should Dillon have picked up the tab since he’s a guy?

Opposites Attract; Dating in DC

Lately I've noticed some of my IJL clients are getting discouraged about potential matches because they don't share ALL of the same hobbies.  Just because your match enjoys skiing and you may not, does not mean that the two of you are not compatible. To have chemistry with someone does not require having absolutely everything in common.   

 

Dating someone with different interests could afford you the opportunity to learn about something new. Maybe you would develop a new interest, or decide not to - and that would be okay too

In fact, it is important that you grow in any relationship. Learning if you like, love or dislike new things is the catalyst to growth.  The best partner is one that challenges you to be the best you that you can be. Wouldn’t you agree?

 

When Giving a Little Gets You A lot: Opening Your Parameters

I just wanted to share a few stories about past and recent instances where my clients have stepped out of their boxes for a bit and found that an open mind can take you far!

Bob had recently joined IJL and brought with him a lot of traveling experiences, personal success, and a great attitude about getting out there and finding someone. Lucy had been with us for about a month and although she had enjoyed all her dates thus far she hadn't found that initial spark she was looking for. I had a gut feeling Lucy and Bob would hit it off, so I called Lucy to ask if she was open to dating other ethnicities. She said she'd never thought about it before but was open to the idea. Bob and Lucy had drinks on a Thursday, went to a concert together the next night, and have continued to talk since!

Frank is the kind of guy who takes things slow. When he would meet someone he was interested in seeing again, he'd ask that we give him some time and check in a couple weeks later. We would wish him good luck and as promised check in with him from time to time. 

So last week I get a call that Frank is back in the game and ready to meet some new people. I initially thought of Kimberly who had recently joined while Frank was on hold. He said he wanted to really focus on successful, well-rounded, classy women with no children. I told Frank I'd be more than happy to send him out with women with no children, but I couldn't get Kimberly out of my mind. I called him the next day and told him he had to meet her, even though she had two beautiful children. He reluctantly agreed. Frank called the next morning after his date with Kimberly to thank me for the suggestion and to say that she was everything and more. Frank was thinking about moving, but has since postponed that idea and is looking forward to more dates with Kimberly!

Why Don't DC Daters Call When They Say They Will?

You just had a great date with an intelligent, smooth, witty guy. In fact, he even drives you home, walks you to the door, and you’re thinking, “What a gentleman!” He calls you later that night to say what a nice time he had and he wants to see you again. He’ll call you tomorrow.

And then…he just doesn’t.

I met with Amy earlier today and this is exactly what happened on her last date. So, she asked me, “Why? Why go through all the trouble and then just never call?”

And it’s not just guys. I have heard from plenty of men disappointed that women wouldn’t return their calls even though they seemed to have a great time.

What do you think, why do they say they call when they know they won’t?

Top 3 Ideas for a Second Date in DC or Northern VA

- Dinner at a quiet restaurant with an intimate atmosphere such as Mie N Yu

- A picnic (bonus points if you make everything yourself)

- A walk in the park

Remember - the focus of a second date should be getting to know that person sitting across from you a little better. You want to choose a quiet location where your conversation won't be drowned out by music or the hundreds of other conversations happening around you. 

After date two, feel free to get a little more creative going to concerts, apple picking, sporting events, or that new movie you've both been dying to see.

Krista White 

To Wait or Not to Wait?

I have a really amazing story to share....

We matched Jessica up with Matt a couple years back. The night of their date, Matt was running really late. Jessica waited about 15 mins and then called her friend to see what she should do. Her friend told her, “You’re already there…why don’t you just wait another 5 mins just in case?” So she did. Five minutes later, Matt comes rushing in, and sure enough he was worth waiting for! In fact, not only did they have a great first date, but that date turned into a second and third and now we just got word they are getting married! Can you imagine if she hadn’t waited that extra 5 minutes?