We do have a different kind of daters than those you find on dating sites, but that doesn’t stop some of our daters from treating their IJL
match like an internet hookup.
Here’s what happened: Jack was out at Perry’s in Adams Morgan
having some sushi with Jill. They were having a great conversation and enjoying the kind
of laughing that made other Perry’s patrons turn their heads as Jill was
clapping with giggles.
We believe there were drinks involved, which may have added
some fuel to the fire so to speak. We are not sure where the conversation
turned, but Jack started talking sex. Not
just a little. A lot, and vividly, and he went on…and on. Because Jill politely laughed out of
embarrassment Jack thought he was just being flirtatious but Jill did not find
it amusing.
Needless to say Jill was completely turned off to Jack, and
what started out as a great match, ended up in flames! We were so excited about these two getting
together. This turn for the worse could
have possibly ruined a perfect match.
Jack should have remembered that It’s Just Lunch. You don’t know what your date’s hot buttons
are just yet, so keep conversation light and friendly. Once you are comfortable
and get to know one another, you can rest assured that more personal topics may
be appropriate at that time.
Is this hot mess all Jack's Fault or was Jill partially responsible?
2 comments:
For Jack... Good that you were throwing in some flirtation. This is what separates a "let's just be friends" date from
"cant stop thinking about my date last night" date. Did you go too far is the question...
For Jill- lighten up a bit, give the guy a break. At least he was talking about something exciting and not going on and on about the weather or his problems at the dry cleaners. (and yes, we've had some people think these are good first date topics)
While there's nothing wrong in a little harmless flirtation, coming on too strong right off the bat is a surefire way to scare a potential partner away! It's a good idea to lighten up and not be too serious, but there is such thing as crossing the line before you've established boundaries of what your date is comfortable with. There is plenty of time to discuss sex in the future if you get things right and don't come on too strong on the first date!
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